caption Marriage is a “people-growing machine.” source HBO A marriage can still be considered successful even if it ends in divorce. Couples therapists say marriage is designed to help people grow – and sometimes they grow out of the relationship. It’s important to embrace change in your relationship, instead of fearing it. “Your marriage has one goal,” Hal Runkel said. “Marriage has evolved into a people-growing machine.” Runkel is a marriage and family therapist based in Atlanta, and he was explaining to me why he’s never attached to any one particular outcome in couples therapy. If the couple chooses to divorce after working with him, so be it. To him, that’s not a failure on his part or on that of his clients. Marriage, he told me, “is perfectly designed to help you grow up. It challenges your blind spots. Marriage will expose your … [Read more...] about Divorce isn’t a failure, therapists say. In fact, it could mean the marriage was a success.
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By Brandie Weikle Special to the Star Thu., April 5, 2018 You know her as the woman made famous by her hysterical impressions of Céline Dion and Michael Jackson on Royal Canadian Air Farce, but there’s nothing funny about some of what Jessica Holmes was going through while becoming one of Canada’s most successful comedians. Holmes recounts the years leading up to her diagnosis with depression in a new book called Depression the Comedy: A Tale of Perseverance out April 24. I spoke with the Toronto actor and mom of two recently about her struggles with depression and getting better while meeting the demands of motherhood. I read that your first encounter with mental illness was when you had postpartum depression. What was that like? In retrospect, that was a shorter depression to go through because it was so acute. Our babies are 18 months apart, and that pays off greatly in the long haul, but in the short-run having kids that far apart — what a … [Read more...] about Air Farce’s Jessica Holmes on mental illness and motherhood
caption Get real. source John Hope/Flickr It’s easy to believe that your relationship is different from everyone else’s. It’s probably not. Relationships take effort to maintain, and you won’t always be happy with your partner. Even if you love each other, if you have fundamentally different values, a breakup may be the best option. Everyone knows relationships are hard, and take effort to maintain, and sometimes disappoint you. Except, of course, your relationship. That’s different. Or so everyone likes to believe. Below, we’ve listed some of the truest but hardest-to-accept insights about modern romance. If you can get past these somewhat unsettling ideas, you’ll be more likely to have a happy and fulfilling partnership. We’re often attracted to people who will later drive us crazy source Shutterstock While researching … [Read more...] about 12 hard truths about relationships no one wants to believe
White House staff secretary Rob Porter resigned Wednesday after his two ex-wives publicly alleged years of physical and emotional abuse. Both women told the FBI about the alleged abuse in interviews conducted last year as part of Porter’s application for a security clearance. Porter called the allegations a “coordinated smear campaign” on Wednesday. White House staff secretary Rob Porter, an integral part of President Donald Trump’s inner circle, resigned Wednesday after both of his ex-wives came forward to allege years of physical and mental abuse. Colbie Holderness and Jennifer Willoughby alleged that Porter physically and mentally abused them during their marriages. Holderness, married to Porter from 2003 to 2008, provided photos of a black eye she claimed she suffered from Porter. Willoughby, married to Porter from 2009 to 2013, provided a copy of a 2010 restraining order she filed against … [Read more...] about ‘He punched me in the face’: The shocking allegations of abuse against the top White House staffer who just resigned
Paris Hilton has said she never fights with new fiancé Chris Zylka. Some experts say you can have conflict without fighting, while others say fighting before marriage can be productive. Ultimately, don’t compare your relationship to the way someone else’s relationship looks from the outside. I recently profiled Paris Hilton’s relationship with new fiancé Chris Zylka. More than once, I noticed, Hilton has publicly described her partner and their partnership as “perfect.” Each has dropped the F-bomb – “fairy tale” – when referring to the other. But the most sweet/gross characterization of their relationship I came across was this: In November 2017, Hilton told US Weekly, “I think we’re the only couple that never fights. All my friends are like, ‘Literally, you guys are the perfect couple. I’ve never seen you argue.'” Zylka chimed … [Read more...] about Paris Hilton has said she and fiancé Chris Zylka are the ‘perfect couple’ because they ‘never fight’ — and she might be onto something