By Katharine Q. Seelye The New York Times Julie Turkewitz Jack Healy Alan Blinder Wed., Dec. 12, 2018 The first time Kelmae Hemphill watched herself overdose, she sobbed. There she was in a shaky video filmed by her own heroin dealer, sprawled out on a New Jersey road while a stranger pounded on her chest. “Come on, girl,” someone pleaded. Ms. Hemphill’s 11-year drug addiction, her criminal record, her struggles as a mother — they were now everybody’s business, splashed across the news and social media with a new genre of American horror film: the overdose video. As opioid deaths have soared in recent years, police departments and strangers with cameras have started posting raw, uncensored images of drug users passed out with needles in their arms and babies in the back seats of their cars. The videos rack up millions of views and unleash avalanches of outrage. Then some other viral moment comes along, and the country … [Read more...] about How do you recover after millions have watched you overdose?
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Bartimaeus did not have sight in both of his eyes, but this did not prevent him from seeing the answer to three of life’s most important questions. The first question: What do you want? Some of us drift from one thing to another. Sometimes, this is because we do not know what we really want. Sometimes, it is because we want too many things. If there are some of us who drift, there are also some of us who get stuck in life because we are fixated on wanting the wrong thing. In our Gospel today, Jesus asks Bartimaeus, “What do you want me to do for you?” Bartimaeus replies, “Master, I want to see.” But if you are blind, what else would you want, right? Bartimaeus did not really need to wrestle much with himself and his desires to come up with an answer – unlike most of us, right? But Bartimaeus was also a beggar. He could have asked for food or for money. Maybe he had not eaten that day, or maybe he had debts to pay. But he was able to see beyond … [Read more...] about What do you really want?
By Zoe McKnight Special to the Star Fri., Oct. 19, 2018 Weddings are all about the spectacle and a promise of forever love. But actually getting there is something all married or otherwise committed couples wrestle with once the honeymoon is over. Decades of relationship research offers evidence-based insight, alongside all that homespun advice bestowed on newlyweds. You can debate that relationships are an art, not a science. But maybe love is best understood as a philosophy. Married couple and co-authors of the recent book Happy Together: Using the Science of Positive Psychology to Build Love That Lasts, Suzann Pileggi Pawelski and James O. Pawelski frame their work around Aristotle’s notion of the good life. The ancient Greek philosopher argued that the ideal friendship is based on virtue, a message that translates to marriage as well. In a successful marriage, both partners should strive to be considered “Aristotelian lovers” who see — … [Read more...] about How do you make love last?
By Tanya Talaga Staff Reporter Sat., Oct. 13, 2018 Twenty years ago, Mike Metatawabin went to Wunnumin Lake First Nation to act as a translator for the Elders coming inland from the James Bay coast to attend a summer meeting of Nishnawbe Aski Nation leadership . It was during this trip that Mike first met a Ralph Rowe survivor. The encounter altered the course of his life. He had been sitting in the community hall and remembers being overwhelmed by the odd, unsettling feeling that he needed to leave. The cold rain soaked through his shoes as he made his way to the modest cabin where he was staying. He hoped the wood stove would be on but the cabin was dark and chilly. He could feel someone’s eyes on him. A young man was sitting in the corner. A small leather hand drum was on the table in front of him. The noose was near. Mike took a seat and began to beat the drum. He told the young man of the pain he was holding after the sudden death of his infant … [Read more...] about When you grow up surrounded by suicide, it seems normal. How do you heal a ‘broken spirit’?
By Rania Mirza Special to the Star Wed., June 20, 2018 The end of the school year is a special time. As a teacher at an elementary school, my colleagues and I are busy making our way through our lists of to dos to close off the year. With two weeks left, the laughter on the playground builds as our students dream of adventures to fill their summer days. The final countdown to summer vacation is on. Although there is excitement in the air, for some it can be scary. And sometimes, I think adults underestimate the pressures that children feel and how they internalize their emotions. Instead, we reduce their worries to insignificant complaining. “Grad is going to be fun mostly.” I work with our Grade 8 valedictorian helping him to edit his speech for the graduation ceremony. “Why mostly?” “My mom’s side of the family and my dad’s side of the family are going to come. They don’t get along. I just hope everything goes … [Read more...] about How do you help kids navigate the leap to high school?