source nd3000/Shutterstock The past impacts our present every day, whether it’s in how we approach certain situations, or how we emotionally react to what people say. In romantic relationships, people can sometimes repeat behaviours to make up for the falls of their previous ones. In psychology this is called repetition compulsion, and it essentially means you’re trying to fix the past by pursuing similar situations or people who once hurt you. There are several signs that you haven’t let go of the past, and these can manifest in how you behave with your current partner. Often, these patterns can start incredibly early with the relationships you had with your parents growing up. “Our childhood experiences with our parents and our teachers and our friends really do have a pretty big impact on how we operate both personally and professionally in early adulthood,” Jennifer B. Rhodes, a psychologist, dating coach, and … [Read more...] about 11 signs your old relationships are affecting your current one
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Jakarta. Many people suffering from mental health problems in Indonesia are reluctant to seek help from professionals because they don't want to be seen as "crazy." This stigma on mental illness, caused by lack of awareness, often sends patients deeper into a downward spiral. Livia Iskandar, a psychologist at [email protected] Peak: Women & Family Empowerment Center in South Jakarta, a counseling service and part of non-profit organization Yayasan Pulih, said they receive many requests for assistance from people with mental health problems who have left it "a bit too late" to seek professional help. Psychiatrist Endah Ronawulan, who practices at Central Pertamina Hospital in South Jakarta, said people with mental health problems usually need a combination of two types of treatment to get better: psychotherapy (counseling) and pharmacotherapy (medication). "There are over 100 types of mental illness, from mild to serious ones. If the illness has interfered with our social and professional … [Read more...] about A Long Way to the Psychiatrist’s Couch: Mental Illness Treatments in Indonesia
By Amy Dempsey Feature Writer Fri., May 11, 2018 Seven minutes. It’s the time it takes to grab a coffee and find a park bench, or pause to catch up with a neighbour, or pay a lunch tab and head out into a sunny day. In seven minutes on April 23, a man driving a rented cargo van struck more than two dozen pedestrians on a north Toronto sidewalk, and left everyone asking why. That one broken human could destroy so many lives is a difficult thing to accept. As Toronto struggles to make sense of what happened, the killer’s motive has been the subject of much speculation. In the weeks since the Toronto van attack, Alek Minassian, the 25-year-old man now facing 10 counts of first-degree murder and 16 counts of attempted murder, has been cast as a symbol of toxic masculinity, a “disturbed individual attempting to exorcize private demons” and a “random loon.” Was Minassian a true believer in the misogynist incel movement referenced in a screed … [Read more...] about ‘I was like, how did he get a van?’ Inside the life of Alek Minassian, the Toronto van rampage suspect no one thought capable of murder
By Casey Seidenberg The Washington Post Tues., April 3, 2018 Yes, feeding children can be challenging. They can be picky eaters. They may start rejecting foods they once loved or feel too afraid to try new ones. They may refuse vegetables and insist that ketchup tops everything. All these behaviours are normal, yet as parents, there are right ways and wrong ways to respond. We can help our kids push through these periods with healthy habits intact, or we can lead them toward overeating, emotional eating or picky eating through the way we handle food. I spoke with Dina Rose, a sociologist, parent educator and author of It’s Not About the Broccoli: Three Habits to Teach Your Kids for a Lifetime of Healthy Eating, about creating and nurturing healthy relationships with food. Rose explained to me that “when parents are really heavily focused on their kids such as ‘how can I get my kid to eat this’ or on the food such as ‘what can I cook that … [Read more...] about Parental feeding styles can have consequences for kids, which type is yours?
By Katie Daubs Feature Writer Fri., Feb. 23, 2018 Al Carbone chose from a menu of five angry hands. One was angular, and looked like a modern city skyline, which he liked, but it wasn’t direct enough, when it came to the King St. transit pilot and how he felt about the politicians at city hall. A middle-finger ice sculpture. “Best investment I ever made,” he says. Chef Carl Dahl watched it come to life on a cold Friday in January. Dahl didn’t know what it was, until one part of the sculpture kept rising. That’s funny, he thought. That will get some attention. Then his phone started buzzing. Kit Kat’s sleepy Twitter account percolated with anger. Dahl tried to explain that it wasn’t directed at transit riders, but that didn’t work, so he started blocking people. “They’re not our customers,” Carbone chimes in, from the front table, where he has recently finished his sausage and penne pasta, his … [Read more...] about King St. middle finger ‘best investment I ever made.’ Man behind sculpture has never been shy about serving up penne and his thoughts