As a relatively new father, I feel I don’t have much to contribute to the conversation. I feel terribly unqualified. I lack experience. My son was only born in late 2017. I also feel I have bad paternal instincts. I don’t know how to calm my one-year old son when he is crying. I don’t know how to hold his attention during teaching moments. I don’t know how to stop him from watching too many videos. I don’t know how to get him back on healthy food after treats from well meaning loved ones. I don’t know how to get him to quiet down in Sunday Church. The little guy has me helpless. Should I be celebrated as a father this year? More on fathers: My father died a few weeks back but I still haven't cried How to forgive the most important man in your life This former drug addict who attempted to kill his family now ministers tokhang surrenderees Kidlat Tahimik: the duwendes and contradictions of a National Artist My loving wife is quite supportive. She … [Read more...] about What does it mean to be a new father in 2019?
How to build a better boy
Last Monday to Wednesday, I was in Club Balai Isabel in Talisay, Batangas. I was one of the coaches invited to help 29 kids from all over the Philippines who were invited to join the Philpop 2019 Boot Camp. Philpop Musicfest Foundation has held six songwriting festivals. And this is their fifth boot camp. The first four were held in different places around the country. The aim of every boot camp is to help promising songwriters better their skills. These “fellows,” as they are called, auditioned to get in. Their transportation, board and lodging were paid for by Philpop. They were there to learn songwriting and life lessons from coaches like Ryan Caybabyab, Noel Cabangon, Trina Belamide, Gary Granada, Lara Maigue, Jungee Marcelo, Yumi Lacsamana, Marlon Barnuevo, Jek Buenafe, Davey Langit and yours truly. The kids were eager to learn. Seminars were prepared by coaches with topics ranging from how to begin writing a song, how to be creative for life, arranging … [Read more...] about A songwriter’s heaven
LIVERPOOL: The church organist wanted to meet outside Liverpool's Anfield Stadium. Her name is Anne Preston, and she carried the program of a funeral she'd played the day before, as a document of something both ancient and achingly current.She wanted me to see it, so I'd understand how life, death and resurrection are so tied together with football along the banks of the Mersey River.She arrived with her husband, meeting me between the Sir Kenny Dalglish Stand and the Kop, the mighty Liverpool Kop. As he went over to sort his tickets for the first leg of the Champions League semifinal in Barcelona, she produced the programme and told me about a musical request from the family.The mom made the request herself. To honor her son, whose funeral program had Anfield on the front and the club crest on the back, she wanted Anne to subtly work in "You'll Never Walk Alone" during the Mass.It's a familiar request to Anne, and to every funeral director and organist in Liverpool.At the crematorium … [Read more...] about What a Premier League title would mean for Liverpool
DESPITE being busy with his own career as a professional Muay Thai athlete and coach, Nidal Mahmoud – elder brother to Malaysia’s ONE Super Series talent Mohammed Bin Mahmoud – has devoted extra time to ensure his sibling leaves the ring in Jakarta, Indonesia with nothing but a victory on Friday, 3 May. Nidal, 24, believes sacrificing time off his career path has allowed him a chance to create a stronger bond with the ONE Championship athlete, something that has bloomed over the past four weeks. “We hardly spend much time training together these days, but ever since his last outing in Japan, I told him that I’ll put my career on hold to help him improve his game,” Nidal explained. “I trained so hard with him throughout this camp. We’ve suffered a lot of pain and some small injuries, but I believe we can succeed in our mission. “The atmosphere this time is different [compared to Japan], but we’ll see how it goes. I’ve … [Read more...] about Brother certain ‘Jordan Boy’ will win in Jakarta
By Erica Pearson Star Tribune Tues., April 30, 2019 Psychologist Michael Reichert wants to reinvent boyhood and make it less dangerous — for everyone. Teen boys are more likely than girls to carry weapons, more likely to get in a fight, more likely to drive drunk, more likely to use drugs or alcohol before sex and far more likely to die young, Reichert writes in his new book, How to Raise a Boy: The Power of Connection to Build Good Men. He argues that this isn’t something boys are born with — it’s created by boyhood’s enduring cultural norms, clichés and pressures, as moms push sons away to avoid raising a “mama’s boy” and boys are told to “man up.” We talked with Reichert, who has two sons and a grandson, about the steps that parents, coaches and teachers can take to intervene, how his work connects to the #MeToo movement, and why he dislikes the term “toxic masculinity.” Q: Why is it so … [Read more...] about How do you raise your son to be a good man? Start with ‘special time’