By Special to the Star Fri., April 20, 2018 Dani is a 50-year-old artist who lives downtown. She says “I’m the kind of woman you might describe as attractive and interesting, but not necessarily beautiful.” She adds “I’m stylish, and I look after myself.” Dani says “I’m independent, intelligent, lively, social, and outgoing. I like to explore, and I have an inquiring mind.” Dani loves concerts, theatre, and crafting. She says “I try to go on dates regularly, but not excessively. I probably have two dates per month, which works for me.” I met Edgar online. He seemed like the kind of person I would want to get to know better. He checked off a lot of my boxes. He was also tall and handsome. After several text messages, I asked him if he wanted to join me for lunch. He said yes, and that he was excited to meet me, and didn’t waste time finding a day that worked for us both. We had a connection, eye … [Read more...] about Dating Diaries: Lunch date was fabulous, but followed by a bad aftertaste
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By Jennifer Miller The New York Times Tues., April 3, 2018 Over video, chat and text — though rarely in real life — digital dating coaches help you create a more attractive online profile, decipher your date’s cryptic text message and boost your confidence after an unsuccessful Tinder fling. These are not substitutes for a licensed therapist, but they’re convenient. “We strive for instant gratification,” said Liron Shapira, 30, co-founder of a chat-based Silicon Valley startup called Relationship Hero. “We give 24/7 service. If you want advice at 4 a.m., you can get it.” Like virtual brunch Online dating coaches have been around practically since online dating began, but their focus has shifted. In 2009, when Laurie Davis Edwards started a company called eFlirt Expert, her most popular offering was a dating “concierge” who would write client profiles, suggest potential matches and even respond to messages … [Read more...] about What can online dating coaches do for you in the Tinder era?
caption Does love really conquer all? source Hulu Tinder released a new survey on interracial relationships. Many respondents said they felt more confident about dating people from different backgrounds when online dating. Other research suggests people’s attitudes toward interracial relationships differ from their behavior. Still, the rate of interracial marriages has increased as online dating has become more popular. Tinder just released the results of a survey on interracial dating – and the findings seem hopeful. Respondents were 4,244 people (not just Tinder users) ages 24 to 25 living in the US, the UK, Australia, and France. As many as 63% said they’ve felt more confident about dating people from different races or ethnicities when online dating. And 66% said that online dating services have made it easier to meet potential partners of a different race or ethnicity. As for … [Read more...] about 20-somethings think they’re more open to interracial relationships — but you wouldn’t know it by the people they choose to date
caption Trump supporters can find now like-minded love. source Lucas Jackson/Reuters The dating game has become more political than ever. A 2016 Tinder study found 71% of online daters consider political differences to be a dealbreaker. And now, two online dating sites – Trump Dating and TrumpSingles – have arisen to indulge one side of that growing divide. The two sites brand themselves as exclusively for supporters of US President Donald Trump, but they’re not quite the first of their kind. Politically focused sites catering to Republicans and Democrats seeking love have sprung up in the past. There was even a site for singles who were “feeling the Bern”. And conglomerate IAC – which owns Match.com and a slew of other dating services – caused a stir in 2016 when it locked down the URL “TrumpPeopleMeet.com,” though it hasn’t used the domain to set up a site yet. But the language used by one of the two … [Read more...] about Trump supporters have their own dating websites now — and they’re already sparking controversy
Jenna Birch’s new book sat on my desk for months before I could bear to open it. The Love Gap: A Radical Plan to Win in Life and Love is about why smart, successful independent women — the type of women men profess to want — have trouble finding steady relationships. For years my single girlfriends and I have been told by the men we date: You’re everything I’m looking for, but I just don’t feel it. Or: You’re great, but I’m just not ready for a relationship. We’ve heard the same refrains for decades, in breakup talks with men in their 20s, 30s, even their 40s. I didn’t want to open the book because it felt too close to home.But I’m glad I did. Because in it I found empathy for the women who hear these things and the men who say them. And an explanation for why seemingly good matches fall apart or never come to fruition.Perplexed by her own dating struggles, Birch dug into research and spoke to about 100 men and women … [Read more...] about New book explains why smart, successful women have trouble dating