By Debra Yeo Toronto Star Tues., Jan. 29, 2019 Something real and raw intruded on the so-called reality of The Bachelor on Monday night when a contestant told Colton Underwood she had been sexually assaulted in college. The revelation followed one of the most superficial dates imaginable — a shopping splurge at several Singapore boutiques — but there was nothing frivolous about what beauty queen Caelynn told Colton at dinner: she had been drugged and assaulted four years before at a friend’s house. Caelynn told Colton she woke up the next morning naked in her bed with no memory of the night before. But a girlfriend who was there and hadn’t drunk the drugged wine told Caelynn she had been assaulted as had two of her friends. Other than one of the assailants being expelled from college no one was ever brought to justice, and Caelynn said she felt so guilty and ashamed she didn’t tell her mother for almost a year. It was a sobering … [Read more...] about On The Bachelor, a date gets serious when Caelynn reveals she was sexually assaulted
Top questions to ask on a date
By Kathryn Hudson The Kit Fri., Nov. 30, 2018 After living through a divorce, I’m finally ready to start dating again. But I’m 54 now and haven’t been out on the market in decades. I am anxious about most of it, honestly, but I don’t know what to wear on a first date. I don’t want to look overdone or overly casual. What are people wearing to date these days? – Arlene, Toronto I love self-love — I really do. I believe in the value of confidence and the occasional Oprah-endorsed mantra. Self-worth should be at the core of every life decision you make. (Hopefully it was at the centre of your decision to move on towards a happier future.) But I am not going to tell you that all you need to do is believe in yourself before a big date. I’m not going to tell you to reach into the back of your closet and slip on any old dress that makes you feel comfortable before heading back into the dating fray. You don’t need a … [Read more...] about Ask the Kit: What do I wear on a post-divorce date?
By Kate Carraway Special to the Star Mon., Aug. 27, 2018 Last weekend, I had the terrible opportunity to see myself objectively: I was organizing boxes of old photos, finding iterations of myself at 16, 17, and 18, and realized that I look almost exactly the same. My hair, then as now, still defaults to a messy bun. My party clothes have been upgraded maybe 6,000 per cent, but my daywear still recalls the sartorial lineage of Bart Simpson. The marginal effort that I continue to make with outfits and grooming is contiguous with the millennial habit of misunderstanding the concept of effort as what we make for ourselves, not for other people. The idea of dressing and grooming “appropriately” to demonstrate respect and reverence for the people around us, and for particular social occasions, just kind of missed us, in part because culture has been aggressively de-etiquetteing for more than half a century, in part because we are a super-individuated, … [Read more...] about How much should you primp for a date? It’s all relative
By Special to the Star Mon., Aug. 13, 2018 Meghan is a 29-year-old teacher who lives in the west end. She says, “Comfort is the most important aspect of an outfit for me, but I like bright colours and patterns.” Meghan says “I have an infectious laugh, and a great sense of humour. I think I’m sensitive in a good way. I’m the first person to start crying during a sappy movie. But, I don’t put up with any s--- from guys!” She likes “independent coffee shops, the Blue Jays — I’m a big fan — and travelling to big cities around the world.” Meghan has been single for a year. I met Francesco on a dating app. His photos were all of him without his shirt on. He was very muscular. After casually messaging back and forth, he asked if I wanted to meet up that weekend for a workout. Gym dates are hit or miss. They’re a casual way to see if there’s any chemistry between you, and have the … [Read more...] about Dating diaries: Getting gym date to talk was a workout, then he tried to make out with me
By Tim Higgins The Wall Street Journal Mon., July 23, 2018 Tesla Inc. has asked some suppliers to refund a portion of what the electric-car company has spent previously, an appeal that reflects the auto maker’s urgency to sustain operations during a critical production period. The Silicon Valley electric-car company said it is asking its suppliers for cash back to help it become profitable, according to a memo reviewed by The Wall Street Journal that was sent to a supplier last week. Tesla requested the supplier return what it calls a meaningful amount of money of its payments since 2016, according to the memo. The auto maker’s memo, sent by a global supply manager, described the request as essential to Tesla’s continued operation and characterized it as an investment in the car company to continue the long-term growth between both players. While Tesla said in the memo that all suppliers were being asked to help it become profitable, it is unclear … [Read more...] about Tesla asks suppliers for cash back to help turn a profit