People of all ages become deeply connected to their pets, but in the lives of teenagers, animals often play a special role. Indeed, pets provide comforts that seem to be tailor-made for the stresses of normal adolescent development.To start, animals don’t judge – and teenagers are generally subjected to a great deal of judgment. Adults tend to harbour negative stereotypes about adolescents, and even those who feel neutral or positive about young people often engage them with the aim of cultivating their growth in one way or another.“Pets are, by their nature, non-judgmental,” notes the developmental psychologist Megan Mueller, an assistant professor of human-animal interaction at Tufts University. “A lot of teenagers will report that as a very important aspect of the relationship. If the teenager is upset the dog won’t tell them ‘maybe you shouldn’t have said that to your friend'.”Animals give adolescents a way to be … [Read more...] about What do teenagers need? Ask the family pet, say experts
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What do you do when there’s nothing to do? The great thing about having nothing to do is, for the first time in a long while, I am watching Netflix without guilt, and with no pressure of work in the morning. What do you do when there’s nothing to do? That’s the question that Douglas Wood asks in his children’s book, Nothing To Do, that I bought for my daughters when they were children. From what I remember, it listed activities where children could make creative use of their time when “there is nothing to do.” There is never nothing to do, as the book showed the kids how to spend lazy days when there’s no school or homework or chores. Among the things he suggests are cloud watching, walking barefoot in the mud, crafting toy ships and paper airplanes or reading one’s favorite book. I remembered that book because I am in that state at this time, when … [Read more...] about What do you do when there’s nothing to do?
Of course when I write “Lola or Lolo,” I mean grandparents. We have wrinkles and white hair. We look useless and old. Let me assure you: we are alive with tons of experience learned from life. When my grandmother turned 60, her children prevailed upon her to stop marketing. She didn’t because she loved marketing; loved buying rotting mangoes to turn into jam; loved to buy fruits to peel and chill and put on the table. After I got married I decided to live with her for a while. I noticed that she spent a lot of time sitting and staring into space. One day she asked me where my husband was. “He’s in Iloilo for his job,” I said. “Did he ask you to go with him?” she wanted to know. “No,” I said. “It’s his work. Wives don’t need to go when their husbands are working.” “Whenever he invites you, you must go,” she said. Then she started staring into space again. Many years passed before I … [Read more...] about What lola or lolo wants
LIVERPOOL: The church organist wanted to meet outside Liverpool's Anfield Stadium. Her name is Anne Preston, and she carried the program of a funeral she'd played the day before, as a document of something both ancient and achingly current.She wanted me to see it, so I'd understand how life, death and resurrection are so tied together with football along the banks of the Mersey River.She arrived with her husband, meeting me between the Sir Kenny Dalglish Stand and the Kop, the mighty Liverpool Kop. As he went over to sort his tickets for the first leg of the Champions League semifinal in Barcelona, she produced the programme and told me about a musical request from the family.The mom made the request herself. To honor her son, whose funeral program had Anfield on the front and the club crest on the back, she wanted Anne to subtly work in "You'll Never Walk Alone" during the Mass.It's a familiar request to Anne, and to every funeral director and organist in Liverpool.At the crematorium … [Read more...] about What a Premier League title would mean for Liverpool
By Kathryn Hudson The Kit Mon., April 29, 2019 I never know how often to wash my hair. I’ve read that it’s good to skip as many washes as possible, but my hair has a tendency to get quite limp after a day or two, maximum. I often resort to wearing it up or using dry shampoo to try to prolong my style, but I’m wondering if I should just wash it every day to freshen it up. Will that actually damage my hair? — Shelley, Oakville There is a good chance this question is also scrawled on the wall of a cave somewhere — painted in symbols by primitive man — because it seems like one of the most fundamental queries asked over and over again by humankind. (Perhaps that’s a slight exaggeration, but the topic does garner over 122 million hits when Googled online, so it seems clear we’re searching for an answer.) I, myself, engage in variations of this conversation several times a day. I have to carefully schedule when I … [Read more...] about Ask The Kit: Do I really need to wash my hair every day?